Another great section in the book which has helped with our relationship is using the 'S-hook of listening'. It is a way of confirming to your partner that you have acknowledged what they have said before going on to express your opinion. I have found that many of our heated discussions have been created by the fact that we do not feel the other person is listening to our point of view. By acknowledging this it takes the heat out of an argument and a more mutual compromise is easily reached.
A. and A.B., Sydney

My husband and I are going away for the weekend and taking Happiness - It's Up To You with us to work on our couple relationship.
F.A. Country NSW

The simple and effective skills for healthy couple relationships are an easy tool for Marriage Celebrants to recommend to prospective couples. The tools consist of

• Self acceptance
• Assertive, and responsive, communication
• Couple closeness: How to argue constructively
• Make couple time to keep in touch.

Mardi Kent, Marriage Celebrant, AFCC

What is in the book is just plain pure common-sense - amazing. It hit me between the eyes. Thanks for changing my thinking. I feel much more relaxed and I'm changing things at home. I wish I'd read it a long time ago .. it should be compulsory reading in schools.
From a mature age woman